What does research tell us about the bipolar spouse?

A common - but staggering - statistic that gets bandied about is that 90% of marriages involving at least one bipolar spouse will end in divorce.

Dealing with a Bipolar Spouse - Bipolar Central

What is being presented here is a conflicting and contradictory portrait of the bipolar spouse:

Bipolar Spouses Support Group - MDJunction

Having a bipolar husband or bipolar wife, often puts the other spouse in the role of caretaker and caregiver of the relationship. Because they live with a bipolar spouse, they are expected to hold everything together when emotional hurricanes hit their families. They hang on in spite of everything that is flying around them just waiting for the calm. Many people close to them expect them to be strong and almost heroically brave, when sadly, they, too, have weaknesses and fears.

Triggers | Living with a BiPolar Spouse

This site is about the trials and tribulations of living with a bipolar spouse. When you start to learn about Bipolar disorder and how it affects the lives of those you love you also learn that you cannot always discuss these things with the affected person. I have created this blog to help other people in similar situations. If your spouse is bipolar too, you might want to keep the following in mind.

It is typical for partners of bipolar spouses to report higher than usual levels of conflict.
What I mean is, have you ever considered that marital problems may be a trigger for mood episodes, and it is stress somewhere in the relationship that is making the bipolar spouse worse? The secret to a happy and healthy marriage with a bipolar spouse is simple - an accurate diagnosis and compliance with an effective treatment plan. The non-bipolar partner, and the marriage itself, takes on a "bipolar life of its own" as the non-bipolar spouse see-saws between solicitous and extreme care-giving during their bipolar husband's or wife's depressive episodes, and feelings of blame, resentment, anger and betrayal when their spouse is in the manic phase of bipolar disorder.Violence was a particular worry for partners when their spouse was manic. However, in spite of all this, many people stay emotionally committed to their bipolar spouse and are very patient and forgiving of problem behaviors.For the bipolar spouse, the divorce may lead to a number of difficulties that compound their mental, emotional, physical, and financial difficulties.It is encouraging to see so many replies to my posts. It helps to know that I am not alone although if your spouse is anything like mine, you are not sharing this information. As to whether or not to stay with someone who is BiPolar, I can’t make that decision for you. God knows it is a very long road and if you choose to stay the path, the end result CAN be very rewarding but, and it is a very large but, you have to be able to make it work, the largest burden will fall on you. Your BiPolar spouse has their own internal problems to deal with, you have to be able to suck it up, hold it together, and stay strong.
So what is it that makes it so hard to sustain marriage with a bipolar spouse?

Living with a bipolar spouse is very difficult

None of this changes the fact that I still want to have my husband's child, and that as of right now, I'm not sure that this would be a very responsible decision with my current husband. If anyone has input that relates to bipolar couples with children, it would be helpful. Is it doable? Is it rewarding? Do you truly rely on your bipolar spouse? How do you and your children handle rough times?

What is being presented here is a conflicting and contradictory portrait of the bipolar spouse:

Do You Live With Unmedicated Bipolar Spouse

A spouse’s bipolar disorder symptoms vary and the impact it will have on the marriage also vary depending on a number of factors. These factors are how well the bipolar spouse manages his or her illness, if he or she seeks treatment as well as how understanding the well spouse is regarding their bipolar wife or husband and their bipolar disorder. The well spouse can also be a trigger for the spouse with bipolar disorder as well because of their close relationship.

Having a spouse with bipolar can be challenging. Here are techniques for coping with bipolar spouses.

Bipolar Spouse | Undiagnosed Bipolar

Life is never easy. And living with a Bipolar spouse can be an extremely tough challenge. My husband has been on his new medication for about 2 weeks now and I am beginning to wonder when this mood stabilizer is going to kick in.